Over the weekend I had to visit an old friend who was opening a designer boutique store selling designer handbags, purses, wallets and designer gear. Some rich and famous people were going to be there. He wanted expert advice and help to ensure it was a grand opening with bumper sales.I got a train on this windy Saturday and settled myself by the window. I watched the trees fade into blocks of houses and back to rows of trees as the train sped from one side of town to the other. I brought out an action novel and got ready to consume about 30 pages of roller-coaster fiction within the hour plus journey.Midway through the journey, I was interrupted by the ladies sitting behind me. Now I did not see them when they got on the train. However their conversation painted a picture of what they might look like in my mind. They seemed to be going to a party later that night and talked about it. One of them sounded confident, outgoing and friendly. She talked about all the people who she was looking forward to meeting. Her conversation was regularly broken with rich bursts of laughter. I mean genuine laughter from the heart, not that fake stuff you hear now and again. I imagined she was a beautiful young lady who desired the best, looked the best and attracted the best.The other lady on the hand sounded timid, selfish and complained about what she was going to wear. Her constant selfish comments sounded like she had a vending machine strapped to her back and ate expired cheesecakes for lunch. I so wanted to take a peak to see what they looked like but they were seating right behind me! After a while I switched off from their conversation and settled back into my book.As the train pulled into the final station, I got up to get out of the train and saw the 2 chatting ladies. As I imagined one of them looked very beautiful with curly hair and dressed in a unique patterned multi-coloured dress with a Gucci designer handbag to match. Wow! She was the bomb. My first impression of the other lady was that she appeared boring and plain. She didn’t seem like the type of person you would want to take to a party. Then I got the shock of my life.’Boring and plain girl’ started talking and she was the confident, outgoing and friendly one. Immediately I saw her in a different light and I found myself smiling towards her. I have to say she smiled back and I loved her smile. I found myself wanting to go to her party.So what does this have to do with you?Well, sometimes we spend so much time trying to take care of the outside without considering the inside. We purchase designer gear like Burberry or Marc Jacobs handbags or a Fendi wallet or Jimmy Choo shoes thinking the people around us will be more attracted to us. A gucci handbag can definitely give you a sense of confidence and attract some attention but it’ll never replace a true sense of worth in your self that comes from giving and sharing with your friends, family and community.Today try and give someone a smile, a helping hand or something to make them feel better. Your sense of worth and value will get a boost and when you go out to a party or an event dressed in a designer dress with a matching designer purse, you wont rely on “it” to give you confidence or win friends. Your inner joy and glow will bubble over and get you the attention you truly deserve!—Maurice Chuka is an entrepreneur specializing in the Fashion, Retail and On-line sectors. Discover more tips and a wide range of Authentic Designer handbags and fashion accessory at